Being resilient is something which comes in handy throughout our lives, but why is it that some people seem to be more resilient than others?
Resilience is a skill which can help us to overcome a whole host of challenges, both personally and professionally. Being resilient means that you are able to bounce back from adversity, to recover from setbacks and to remain focused on the end goal even when obstacles are put in your way. In fact, the origin of the word is ‘resili’ which actually means to ‘spring back’.
If you lack resilience, you could find that you are experiencing an increase in negative feelings. You might find that rather than face difficult situations, you choose to shut down instead, or that you fly off the handle at the smallest provocation. We all like to think that we’ll be able to keep a calm head when things go wrong, but life’s troubles have a way of sneaking up on us when we least expect them, and this can leave us on the back foot.
The most important thing is to not let a situation overwhelm you. No matter how bad things are, you have the inner strength to deal with what lies ahead. Resilience is not so much about avoiding the knockbacks, it’s about what you do when they hit, so that you can get back on track as soon as possible. If a certain pathway is cut off, it’s about how you can flex your mind to reveal solutions and opportunities to continue, albeit via a different route.
Being more resilient means you are able to drown out the negative chatter that tells you there is no point continuing, that you’ll never achieve the outcome or that whatever you try, it’s going to fail. It’s about keeping your eye on the end prize and understanding that the path won’t always be smooth, but the destination remains constant.
Resilience is also about opening your mind to the possibility that reaching your desired outcome may not come about in the way you intended. We all like to think that our plans will go as expected; this helps us to feel in control. When we accept that it is ok for things to change and for the unexpected to occur, we no longer fear it, but see it as a natural part of the journey. Rather than trying to fight against it, we actively embrace it and look for solutions to help us continue on our path.
This mindset can be applied to all aspects of your life, from achieving your career goals to buying a dream house or saving up for the trip of a lifetime. Being resilient means you know bad things are going to happen from time to time, you accept that you can’t prevent them, but when they do happen, you’ll find a way through, just like you always do.
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