The New Year can be a time of reflection, and generally feeling ‘unsettled’. We inadvertently put pressure on ourselves, via resolutions and other means, to change many things in our lives. Very often these means only last in the short-term.
After a while of sitting with this feeling, and just feeling that something is missing, many of us lose ourselves and get caught up in the day-to-day – letting other people, situations and circumstances dictate our time and what we do with it. I wrote a blog on this recently: Do you run the day or does the day run you?
Give yourself a break
Feeling ‘unsettled’ can be a source of great motivation and progress if you flip it on its head. How can you galvanise those feelings, find out what they are telling you to lead you to something you do want?
Remember that your ideas need to be personal and motivating to you and what drives you – not something that belongs to someone else! If you aren’t motivated – chances are you won’t do it! No ‘shoulds’ here please. Feeling happy with yourself is a sure-fire way to make others happy!
Here are some ideas to get you started, based on coaching sessions I have held with clients in the past:
- What were you most proud of last year?
- What did you not accomplish, that you wish you had?
- And what are/were the reasons for wanting that? And how valid are those reasons now?
- On a scale of 1 – 10 – how happy are you with your life right now (0 is low, 10 is high)
- Which specific area of your life is bugging you the most?
- What do you want to be, or do, or have in that area of your life?
- What is the first step you can take to get there?
These powerful questions may get you thinking. Keep a note of your thoughts in a journal and start to step into what you do want.
Feel free to organise a free consultation with me, where we can pin down what motivates and inspires you, and even start to draw up what I call a ‘Personal Navigation Plan’.