I don’t know about you, but I’ve had jobs where I know in my heart of hearts I’m not happy, and frankly – I just don’t belong. I’ve sat there and meditated, socialised, looked forward to my holidays; anything to try to ignore the feeling of ‘Do you know what? This just isn’t me’.
It’s a scary thought – especially if you’ve spent a long time crafting your career steps and plans, only to realise that when you get ‘there’, ‘there’ isn’t actually where you want to be.
Fed up in my career. What now?
It might seem easier to push those feelings to the back of your mind and try to ignore them. I’d strongly suggest you don’t do that. The problem is, those gut feelings tend to keep getting louder until you wake up one day and realise you wish you made that career change, taken that job, moved company, asked for promotion, taken a career break.
You are not alone – I promise you.
It takes a brave person to admit you’re not where you want to be – so chances are, most of your colleagues have felt the same way at some point. They just haven’t said it out loud! Experiencing these feelings and situations myself is what first made me interested in career coaching, and trust me, people in all different careers and at all different levels are feeling exactly the same as you are right now!
One of the best things we can do to help ourselves is to just get it down on paper. Get it out of your head, and onto a piece of paper. Try a ‘gap analysis’. Think about where you are now and where you want to get to, skills you have now and skills you need to develop. Start with the end in mind, as Stephen Covey says, and then figure out the distance between now and then. Whatever it is that makes that voice in your head scream ‘I’m fed up in my career!’ in the middle of the night, confronting it is the most effective way to move on.
And be kind to yourself – thumbs up for listening to your gut feelings, and remember we don’t always get to see the full picture. With each step we take in life, our direction twists slightly and changes.
I understand exactly how you’re feeling, because I’ve been there, made the mistakes, and had the sleepless nights! That’s why I created a powerful tool to help others work through these tough issues, and you can get it completely free here. Whether it clarifies exactly what you need to do, or identifies a need for some further career coaching, I promise you’ll see results.
Once you’ve tried my free career/business analysis tool I’d love to hear how you got on. Did it throw up anything you hadn’t considered before? If it gave you a ‘lightbulb moment’, and you’re comfortable sharing, let me know in the comments below.